Is my departed loved one angry with me? Suffering the pain of guilt after a loved one passes.
As we enter this most colorful season, a time rich with the beauty of stark changes awash with the brilliant hues that paint the quiet and peace of life’s wonders, I hope you are enjoying some hopes and promises granted.
For me, Fall is always a time of reflection, organization and preparation for the cold and dark days of Winter’s chill. It is also my favorite time of the year and so I am bound to write some poetry!
Today I find myself reflecting on the very recent passing of my dear friend Phran Ginsberg, a wonderful & powerful woman I have come to admire greatly for her strength, fortitude and tireless dedication in helping guide the bereaved in their path toward healing. And to that effort, Phran and her wonderful husband Bob, together founded The Forever Family Foundation as a place where individuals and families who have suffered the loss of a loved one can turn for support, information, and hope.
As I reflect back over time and conversations shared with Phran & Bob and many who have attended Forever Family Foundation retreats, a question occurs to me that is very often posed by many of my own clients and I feel compelled to share my answer for anyone who may be struggling with feelings of guilt after the passing of a loved one.
The circumstances and situations that cause us to feel guilt after the passing of a loved one are wide-ranging indeed
We can be left anguishing over actions taken or words thoughtlessly or callously uttered. Perhaps we didn’t express our love sufficiently. Perhaps we didn’t express it at all. Perhaps we are now forced to make a choice that we feel our loved one would not agree with or we must make a decision that may explicitly go against their expressed wishes.
A woman asks if her deceased husband of 5 years was mad at her for meeting someone new.
A daughter asks if her mom was angry with her because she was not able to hold onto the family home when the taxes became too much for her to manage.
Another man breaks down in tears when he recounts how much he loved his wife, but he never said it to her around friends or family. He knew it must have hurt her deeply. “Could she ever forgive me for being such a bonehead”?
Admittedly, I too have contemplated the losses of many family, friends and colleagues and have suffered the pangs of guilt
So many people have expressed similar fears to me and worry if our loved ones in spirit will ever let us off the hook and free us from our guilt and our nagging fears. Will they let us peacefully move on?
In fact, the only ones holding us back and tight in the patterns and struggle of guilt, shame and remorse, is ourselves
No new love affair, no lost house, no harsh words or sentiments held-back can diminish their love or their forgiveness.
It is of no consequence to their brilliant new form in the world of infinite intelligence and knowing. They dwell in a garden of love and only love - for the peace of ALL
There is no room for the spins and gyrations of the human fears. So they gently touch in, not to judge, scold or get even. They come with their new and evolved insight to encourage each of us to live, live well and not waste another moment of life’s experience on regret.
Be kind to one another and breathe. Fear not for they are always with you only in Love.
© 2020 Joseph P. Shiel III
Joseph Shiel is a highly acclaimed Evidential Medium, Spirit Artist, Psychic and award-winning teacher. Internationally known for his accuracy, integrity and commitment to others, he has devoted his life to service of Spirit and those seeking love, healing and growth. He shares his remarkable talents with students, clients and audiences around the world; teaching, speaking, healing and performing private and public demonstrations of evidential mediumship and Spirit Art deemed by many as 'Portraits from Heaven.' His exceptionally rare gifts make him one of the most sought after mediums, consulting for politicians, CEO's, celebrities and all those seeking healing and insight.